Warning- there are multiple curse words in this rant which are not only warranted but were totally unavoidable.
Ok people. I really didn’t want to weigh in on this subject because I thought, “Who cares what I have to say about anything?” but then I remembered I have a blog and I don’t have to worry about that. This is MY forum in which to share my thoughts and our life with you. So here goes.
Breastfeeding is NORMAL. It is what breasts were intended to do. There, I said it. They’re not here to pleasure men or even ourselves, or to be pretty to look at. They are on our bodies to feed, nurture and insure our children live to see another day. At least, that’s their biological reason for existing. In 2012, they’re now used to sell cars, beer, magazines, movies, food, houses, candy, boats, whatever the hell you want to sell. But they’re apparently NOT to feed our children. Excuse me for one moment here but
What the FUCK?!?
So not only are they being overly exposed in the wrong capacity but apparently now they can’t even be used for what they were created? Go fly a kite. Seriously.
The debate over this makes me so, SO angry I can’t even see straight to argue with the haters on the interwebs. See, most people have their opinions and it’s not going to change, no matter what or who presents evidence to the contrary. I, for one, am of the opinion that when my child is hungry, I will feed him. Whether that’s in the mall, on a walk, in Wal-mart, in his carseat, in our bed, laying in the grass, whatever, wherever, whenever. I am going to feed my child. If you have an issue with that, I frankly don’t care. It is your problem if seeing my cleavage (no more than would be showing if I were wearing a bikini top, by the way) turns you on. I am rather hot, I know this. Or is it the fact that my baby is sucking on my breast? Is that what you’re squeamish about? Well get over it. I’m sorry if the over-sexualization of our body parts has now made you fear something women were blessed with the ability to do. Not my problem.
I am aware that “whipping out my boob” in public is not exactly encouraged so I do try to be respectful when doing so. I’m often wearing Liam so it makes feeding him easy and private. Most people don’t even know. However, he doesn’t like to be covered up. He is a hot baby and being covered by a blanket doesn’t help the situation so that’s not going to happen. And no, I won’t go breastfeed in a bathroom. It’s dirty. You wouldn’t eat your lunch there so why should my son? I’m not going to pump my breast milk, put it in a bottle which I’ve thought ahead to do, carry in a cooler and have on the ready. That’s ridiculous behavior which I won’t subscribe to. My body was designed to provide Liam with the milk he needs NOW. It gets thinner when it’s hot out, thicker when it’s cool. It will have added antibodies if we’ve been exposed to a sickness. He tells me how much he needs and is in control of his own eating schedule. I refuse to change that because some people don’t want to think about the horrible act of my child nursing, much less see it.
Now, I realize not everyone can breastfeed. Not everyone wants to. Some mommas HAVE to pump. I get all that so don’t think I’m pointing fingers at you. It’s the people who say that breastfeeding is “gross” and “should be done in private”, those comparing it to defecating or masturbation (WHAT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU?!), and those who think it’s for the mother’s sexual pleasure to breastfeed. I don’t even know where to begin debunking those completely absurd assumptions so I won’t. There is no point. If you were raised to be ashamed of your body, you probably will have issues with me “showing” mine. However, please remember this: It is not a pornographic peep show. It is my son getting the food he is entitled to as a HUMAN BEING.
This is one of my favorite articles about breastfeeding benefits for both momma and baby. I’ll quote some here but I definitely encourage you to check it out.
Breast milk is a unique nutritional source that cannot adequately be replaced by any other food, including infant formula. Although pollutants can accumulate in breast milk, it remains superior to infant formula from the perspective of the overall health of both mother and child.
Infants are fragile and susceptible to disease, partly because their bodies are not fully developed. They must be treated with special care and given adequate nourishment. Infant formulas are able to mimic a few of the nutritional components of breast milk, but formula cannot hope to duplicate the vast and constantly changing array of essential nutrients in human milk. Nevertheless, breastfeeding is often devalued, both in the United States and abroad, and in many parts of the world it must compete with relentless advertising by infant-formula companies.
Studies have demonstrated a number of important health benefits to breastfeeding. Among them:
- Breast-fed children are more resistant to disease and infection early in life than formula-fed children
- Breast-fed children are less likely to contract a number of diseases later in life, including juvenile diabetes, multiple sclerosis, heart disease, and cancer before the age of 15
- Mothers who breastfeed are less likely to develop osteoporosis later in life, are able to lose weight gained during pregnancy more easily and have a lower risk of breast, uterine and ovarian cancer
- Breastfeeding also has economic advantages: it’s cheaper than buying formula and helps avoid medical bills later because it helps equip the baby to fight off disease and infection. New parents are well advised to learn all they can about the pros and cons of breast milk and formula.
This is a civil right, no, it’s a human right. If our ancestors hadn’t breastfed us, we would not be here. Get it? I choose to exclusively breastfeed for the health of my child and I will continue to as long Liam wants. That’s right. I might be breastfeeding a 3 year old too but guess what? It’s NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS! It’s me, feeding my son. And I’ll be damned if someone tries to tell me not to.